Do you have trouble making decisions?
Have you ever been told that your expectations are unrealistic?
Do you have trouble receiving criticism, however constructive and well-intentioned it may be?
Does your self-confidence sometimes depend on other people’s reactions to what you say and do?
Do you dwell on mistakes you’ve made, and replay them in your head as if you could rewrite them?
Are you sometimes so focused on the destination that you forget to enjoy the journey?
If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, you might be a perfectionist.
Perfectionism is all too common in the nonprofit sector. We are surrounded by smart, high-achieving people, and it’s easy to feel like we don’t measure up. Then comes the negative self-talk, the unhealthy work habits, and feelings of failure.
If our definition of success is perfection, then there is no way we can succeed. We are human; we can’t be perfect.
This is detrimental: to us as individuals, to our organizations, and ultimately to those we are trying to serve.
In this episode, we look at some strategies for getting rid of perfectionism:
- positive self-talk and empowering postures
- redefining success
- letting go
- remembering self-care
- leading a culture-change at our organizations
Notes and links:
“Burnout,” episode 001 of the Yoga of Nonprofit Communications podcast
John Haydon on “How to Slay Perfectionism”
Beth Kanter on “Satisficing”
Bix Gabriel’s article “Perfectionism in Nonprofit Communications: To Strive For or Not?”